KING
Activate the King Archetype to
CREATE ORDER
“The King’s first responsibility is to live according to The Way. If he does, everything in the kingdom will also go according to the Right Order. The kingdom will flourish.”
– from the book: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Moore and Gillette
Who is a King?
Kings are our leaders, managers, captains, directors, and teachers. They lead, guide, and inspire us. The King is the central role (energy) which holds together all others. Masculine traits which confirm and boost the King are leadership, vision, a sense of agency, intentional, honorable, wisdom, holding up under pressure, and self-regulation.
Whether you like it or not, once you and your wife become parents you also become a King and a Queen. The question is only what kind of ‘kingdom’ you create for your children.
The king archetype in marriage is more than just a symbolic title. It is a powerful archetype rooted in leadership, stability, and responsibility—especially within the context of fatherhood and family life.
When a man becomes a father, he doesn’t just gain a new title—he steps into the king archetype. Whether he acknowledges it or not, his influence begins to shape the emotional and structural foundation of his family. The question isn’t whether he is a king, but what kind of king he chooses to be.
The core of the king archetype is order. A king creates structure through his word—he means what he says, and others trust him to follow through. In a family setting, this kind of dependable leadership builds trust, reduces chaos, and brings a sense of peace.
The king archetype also includes being a protector. This doesn’t mean being aggressive—it means being reliable and present. Your wife and children look to you for strength, not force. They seek consistency, not control.
One of the greatest gifts of the king archetype is its ability to calm the storms of family life. Children are naturally chaotic, emotional, and impulsive. A king responds not with frustration, but with structure and direction.
When the king archetype is embraced, the household feels safer. Your partner feels supported, especially during the challenging years of motherhood. Your children feel secure, knowing they are guided by someone who values peace over power and presence over pride.
Unfortunately, modern culture often misrepresents the king archetype. It gets confused with outdated patriarchal systems or tyrannical control. But history shows that kingship arose to counteract disorder. The true king archetype is not about control—it’s about restoring balance and protecting what matters most.
This video shows how the king archetype is not only relevant today but urgently needed. When family life lacks stability, it’s often because the king has not stepped into his rightful place. Children act out, partners feel anxious, and the home suffers from a lack of grounding energy.
By choosing to embrace the king archetype, you bring clarity to your household. You create rules, expectations, and routines that everyone can rely on. You set a tone of mutual respect and emotional safety. And you do it all not through dominance, but through devotion.
The power of the king archetype lies in your word. What you say matters. What you promise must be followed through. A king is trusted because his word carries weight—and your family needs that weight to feel anchored and protected.
If you’re unsure whether you’re fulfilling the king archetype, look at your home: Is there peace or chaos? Does your partner feel supported? Do your children feel secure? These are reflections of the kind of king you are right now—and the kind you have the potential to become.
Ultimately, the king archetype is not about perfection. It’s about presence. It’s about rising each day with the intent to lead, protect, and provide stability for your family. It’s about offering your strength without needing to overpower others.
In this video, you’ll learn how to reconnect with the king archetype in a way that empowers your entire family. You’ll discover how to use your words to create order, how to respond to chaos with calm authority, and how to embody the values that bring peace and purpose into your home.
The king archetype is a calling—a noble identity waiting to be claimed. When you embrace it, you bring not only strength and structure, but healing and harmony to those you love most.
Start building your kingdom today—one of wisdom, security, and love—by stepping fully into the king archetype.
Click to listen to what she needs from you as a King
King identity card
I am the leader,
the authority,
the father,
the manager,
the captain,
the person in charge.
To lead,
To create order,
To take care of others.
To lead,
To create order,
To take care of others.
I provide direction and vision.
I set values and rules.
I make a difference in people’s lives.
I rule with love and respect, rather than through threats and force.
I bless others.
Leadership,
integrity,
centeredness,
wisdom,
contribution,
balance,
peace.
Sit upright, look straight, move gracefully and slowly.
Consider your ‘gravitas.’ Having gravitas means that you matter to others. Your words speak volumes because you mean what you say.
People high on gravitas can persuade and influence. They speak with intent, slowly, and quietly, and say little. Others listen.
Negative expressions of the King role
Over-active
Obsessed with control and order
Authoritarian
Condescending
Arrogant
Know-it-all
Talks a lot
Under-active
Abdicates the ‘throne’
Lets his wife lead alone
Lacks leadership or initiative,
Reactive
Chaotic
Dark side
Tyrant
Suspicious
Rules with fear
Paranoid
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King Wisdom
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Money problems in Marriage (short)
Money problems in marriage can strain relationships, but shifting from blame to collaboration turns stress into growth. Couples can transform conflict into connection by co-creating a budget, building trust, and having regular check-ins. Wise leadership involves empathy, fostering both financial order and emotional harmony.
Family Leadership She Will Respect and Appreciate
Family Leadership She Will Respect and Appreciate involves exercising authority with service and humility. True leadership focuses on long-term well-being and strengthens relationships through purpose and generosity. Embrace being teachable and admitting mistakes to lead with strength and emotional maturity, earning respect through presence.
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